In a previous post titled: Be where you are, I touched on the concept of not hiding from emotions, and surrendering to the lessons of the moment with awareness and growth. This topic is complicated in it's layers and challenges. Which is why I feel drawn to continue the "conversation". The relief of giving yourself permission to "be where you are" is a strong pull to seeing what is true in each moment from an internal, expanded, and authentic place. This relief and expansion of vision isn't without it's challenges. One, being intentionally conscious and aware of your thoughts and emotions. Two, being able to stop in that moment and turn inside. Three (but not last), in that moment acting and choosing differently from previous patterns. It is unrealistic and unfair to yourself to think that you will be perfect at being where you are just because you want to be. It's okay to mess up, we all do. Part of being where you are is owning those perfect mistakes and choosing an approach to solving them in a way you will be proud of and feels right to you.
One, being intentionally conscious and aware of your thoughts and emotions. Our mind is an astounding mechanism that has many functions. These functions are necessary to a point, but in excess can leave our bodies stressed. In relation to this topic I want to highlight the functions of the mind that are reactive with behavior patterns, on a verbal loop of negative thoughts, hyper-analytical tracks, etc. In our culture, we tend to get so attached to our goals, responsibilities, pressures, and keeping up, that the mind is on non stop chatter. It is a challenge to be aware of thoughts because there are so many happening at once. But, this is where the emotions come in. If you are feeling a strong emotion or even a subtle one; it is an indicator, or barometer for where you are. See, your thoughts can be on constant loud volume, but your feelings, emotions, instincts will at some point well up and give you the nudge to stop...turn down the volume...and listen. If you want to exercise the ability of being aware, and quieting the self, start with using your feelings and emotions as your wake up call to be where you are. Feel, stop, listen.
Two, being able to stop in that moment and turn inside. Once you have paused into the feeling or thought that you are aware of, it is important to be intentional with where you are. Do you want to change the thought due to it hurting you? Is the pain being felt so it can be acknowledged and healed? Do you want another perspective? Etc. This part of the process is the time I usually ask myself, is this true? Sometimes I get a whole new set of truths, and sometimes I get a "hell yeah it's true, but go about another way". Either answer allows me to move forward proud of myself for checking in and confirming what is true for me. Then I usually ask myself follow up questions for clarity or guidance. The benefit of the mind being so quick is that these questions and answers can happen within a breath. And the more you practice it, the faster the flow of information.
Three, in that moment acting and choosing differently from previous patterns. I believe this is where empowerment takes flight. The way we have been taught to behave or believe only has hold on us as long as we choose it to. Once you become aware of a thought or feeling you want to change, you inquire within to communicate with your Self to see what's true or not, then you step out of these patterns and choose a thought or feeling that gives you a full and empowered path forward. Seek out your truths, they are in every moment with you...waiting to be felt or heard.
From a shamanic perspective, being in balance is where life and health thrive. Using the concept of being where you are, and adding in these three steps, you have a starting line for creating that balance. It is difficult for some to do this on there own, and for that I am available for private sessions to guide and support you.