Know how you feel. Give voice to what you feel, then shut up and flow with it. Not too long ago I was in an journey with the intention to get some guidance in my life. I was shown that it is not often that I just say how I feel. More often I tell the story of what is around how I feel and use the emotion as an exclamation point. I was shown how this actually perpetuates any negativity to my emotion and...
REPEATING THE STORY STOPS THE STORY FROM EVOLVING INTO WISDOM.
I was shown that how I feel...my emotions...are huge bundles of energy and power. Mostly power. They move, they shake, they spring into action, they cradle and hold, they are magnificent keys to my energetic freedom. Then I was shown that when the emotions are simply stated without a supporting story, the emotion is free to evolve into wisdom . That giving the emotion voice, gives that emotion fluid truth. And the second I begin to add reasons, justifications, and story to it, the emotion becomes an attached block. And when emotions are blocked they cause damage to the soul, body and mind. When emotions are fluid, they flow through quickly without damaging the soul, body, and mind.
"I am having anger about this". Notice the wording here. Having anger denotes a temporary experience of it. Let's say your partner has done something that just pissed you off. Declaring your emotion for it and sitting in the space of your emotion without a story around it allows you to feel it fully and authentically. And then it will move on...move through you completely...and you can approach the solution clearly, calmly and with freedom of spirit. Now, if you plan to try this practice on for yourself...I suggest you tell your partner what you are up to so you both have the space to be different.
Now, lets take the same pissed-off-ness in the same situation and it goes like this: "How could you? What were you thinking? This is the kind of shit that_________________. I am so mad at you! etc..." What happens here is the questions build a story around the thing. The questions also create more problems and negative energy. It engages the other person to create their version of the story...making the story twice as powerful and energetically charged.
Back down again. Here it is in bullet points...I love bullet points
- give your emotion a voice...example:"I feel sad"
- shut the mouth and mind trap for awhile and feel the full purity of said emotion....maybe a time out, or some journaling?
- when the emotion has flowed through, ask your Self "what do I want out of this"
- then go from there by acting on the wanting.
YOU DON'T HAVE TO JUSTIFY YOUR FEELINGS.
We have every right to feel what we feel...to let those emotions have fluid power and truth. And those around us have every right to feel what they feel. So, as you give yourself freedom from the story, support others in attaining their freedom of the their stories.
WE MAY FIND A WHOLE NEW DIMENSION TO LISTENING.
I've been using this since it was gifted to me in that journey and it has been a huge asset in the whole being "unscripted" thing. And the listening thing is transforming as well. I ask a lot let questions. Say less of the shit that doesn't matter. And finding adventure in the uncomfortable silences.
What do you feel about this?